I used to think midlife would come with answers. Instead, it came with hot flashes... and a whole new relationship to the truth.
The truth about what I want. What I won’t tolerate. And what I’m no longer pretending not to feel.
Menopause didn’t just shift my hormones—it shifted my filters. Now when my body’s tired, I rest. When my spirit says “nah,” I listen. And when the heat rolls in like it’s got something to prove… I grab a fan, a journal, and remind myself: This isn’t a breakdown. This is a becoming.
These days, I crave spaces where I don’t have to over-explain my softness or my strength. Where we can be honest about the messy middle—without fixing it, spiritualizing it, or rushing through it.
So I made one. It’s called Hot Girls Lounge. No pressure. No performance. Just real talk, community, and exhaling on a Saturday with folks who get it.
2nd Saturdays
- drbrooklynchick.com/hot-girls-lounge
Midlife didn’t give me all the answers. But it did give me boundaries. And the courage to be real—loudly, softly, and on purpose.
If that resonates? You’ve got a seat at the table.
About the Author
Dr. Tanya Crabb is a licensed clinical psychologist, Marine Corps veteran, and the founder of Soul Works: Counseling, Coaching & Consultation by Dr. Brooklyn Chick. She specializes in trauma recovery, identity development, and the quiet work of reconnecting to self and others. With a practice rooted in cultural awareness, mind-body healing, and real-talk strategies, Dr. Crabb helps clients rewrite the narratives shaped by early wounds and systemic messages. She is also the creator of the Grown Woman’s Guide journal series and a fierce advocate for joy, rest, and liberation as essential parts of healing.
